Who Am I?

Grounded in Grace: Helping Kids Build Their Identity in Christ by Jonathan D. Holmes. New Growth Press, 2024. Paperback, 120 pages, $16.99.

“Who am I?” How can parents (and grandparents) help their growing children who are dealing, or will have to deal, with that question? Holmes suggests, “Our children are under enormous pressure to figure out who they are in an environment and culture that is sending them conflicting messages.” (3) The author hopes to help, not only parents, but also others who interact with children.

Traditionally, children found their identity by following in their parents’ footsteps and achieving approval from them and other adults. Boys might often follow in their father’s trade, while the goal of girls would be to become a loving and submissive wife. More recently in our culture, “the determiner of identity has moved from something outside of you to something inside of you.” (7) Your inner voice is crucial.

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Message to young parents

One of the unexpected joys of being a pastor is being asked to send out an anonymous email as follows:

Dear brothers and sisters,
Someone, no longer quite so young, asked me to sent the following to the parents of young children in the congregation, but to withhold his name. I asked, and received, permission to send it to the entire email list of the congregation. My immediate impression: the author understands God’s faithfulness to the promises (and responsibilities) of the covenant. I am grateful for his prayers.

Blessings,
John

To all the dear children of Christ’s church at Trinity that are raising young ones: you are never outside of our beloved Lord’s sight and rarely outside of our prayers. Raising young ones to the Lord is the highest calling in this life. You may not see that right now “stuck” at home all day with rambunctious children, mothers, but your warfare is not in vain. You indeed are greatly loved by God, and raising the next generation of covenant children is your life’s work-which will never end; though it will change. Do not despair you fathers who work in a job you really don’t want to do and barely pays the bills. When you go home tired from your day and have to summon up that smile and cheer for your wife: know that she feels the exact same way. Go ahead and change that diaper or discipline that child with the same joy in the Lord your wife deserves: you are are both fighting the same fight and your warfare is not in vain.    

You are all loved by us, and those of us who have gone before you know and understand.


John W. Mahaffy, PastorTrinity Presbyterian Church of the Orthodox Presbyterian Church http://trinitynewberg.org/